The Thoughtful Leader: Evidence-Based Reflections on Work and Life
Great leadership isn’t instinct—it’s insight in action. This blog explores the evidence behind the everyday choices that shape how we lead, work, and connect.
Welcome to my corner of insight and inquiry.
This blog offers a glimpse into my evidence-based approach to leadership and negotiation—rooted in psychology, behavioral science, and real-world application. Each post reflects my belief that knowledge—when grounded in research and translated into practice—is not only powerful but transformative.
These reflections draw from both academic rigor and lived experience, offering thoughtful perspectives and practical strategies to help you gain clarity, elevate your impact, and build deeper, more meaningful relationships.
Thank you for being here on this journey toward becoming more informed, empowered, and socially attuned.
Enjoy,
Tatiana
Navigating Job Loss, Career Grief, and Professional Resilience
Job loss can shake your sense of identity and purpose. This article explores the psychology of career grief, how to process the emotions, and practical steps for building resilience and moving toward a more meaningful, aligned professional future.
Stop People-Pleasing: How to Set Boundaries, Lead with Confidence, and Build Trust
This article explores the trauma-informed roots of people-pleasing, how it manifests in professional settings, and why shifting away from it is essential for strong leadership, effective negotiations, and healthier relationships. By understanding these patterns and implementing practical strategies, you can foster confidence, set boundaries, and build relationships based on mutual respect rather than over-accommodation.
Signal vs. Noise: Why Top Performers Don’t Waste Time on the Wrong Things
How do we, as senior leaders, cut through the noise and find our signal? In this article, we’ll explore what that means – starting with the Steve Jobs example – and then dig into why staying focused is so difficult in today’s leadership environment. Finally, we’ll cover five high-performance habits to help you anchor your attention on what truly matters… and a self-diagnostic to assess how much of your leadership time is signal – and how much is noise.
The Science of Deep Focus vs. Reactive Work: Why Executives Must Protect Their Cognitive Energy
I recently found myself overwhelmed. I was switching between projects, setting meetings, answering emails, prepping slides, preparing a sales pitch, and assessing a business relationship. And then, I needed to write an important article. But my mind was too cluttered to think clearly. I couldn’t work.
Sound familiar? Many executives operate in this constant state of overstimulation, juggling urgent demands while struggling to find time for high-impact work. We assume we can push through, but the reality is, our brains aren’t wired for endless task-switching.
Is Your Ego Sabotaging Your Work Relationships? A Trauma-Informed Guide to Leadership Growth
Ego is a powerful force that can either propel us forward or hold us back. While it’s often mistaken for confidence or pride, ego is much more nuanced. At its core, ego acts as a defense mechanism, helping us navigate situations where we feel vulnerable or unsafe. But when unchecked, it creates barriers—both at work and in our personal lives—preventing us from fostering meaningful relationships and becoming the leaders, teammates, or negotiators we aspire to be.
The Power Play: Unraveling the Essence of Political Skill
In the intricate web of corporate hierarchies, it's not just technical prowess that propels individuals up the ladder of success. It's a blend of power, influence, and an astute understanding of political dynamics that truly sets the stage for career advancement. In this blog post, we delve into the world of political skill and its significance in organizational growth, leadership, and the art of negotiation.
Why Leaders Need to Stop Hiring for Talent Alone—and Start Prioritizing Relational Intelligence
We often talk about leadership as if it’s a function of skill: strategic thinking, technical ability, decision-making under pressure.
But here’s the truth backed by science: leadership lives and dies in relationships.
When organizations hire or promote leaders based solely on technical expertise or individual performance, they frequently overlook a critical dimension—relational orientation. That’s the tendency to build long-term, trust-based connections rather than operating on a purely transactional, give-to-get mindset.
Why Proactive Leadership is the Key to Thriving in Uncertainty
Leadership is often tested in both the best of times and the most uncertain. The approach you take—proactive or reactive—can make all the difference to your team’s morale, your organization’s bottom line, and your ability to sustain success over the long term.
Proactive leaders anticipate challenges, seize opportunities, and drive change before circumstances demand it. Reactive leaders, on the other hand, respond to problems as they arise, often under pressure. Both approaches have their place, but consistently relying on reactive leadership can hinder growth and create instability.
Scaling Leadership Impact: Strategies, Stories, and Lessons from the Best
Leadership is not about doing it all; it’s about enabling others to succeed and amplifying your team’s collective impact. As John Maxwell famously said, “If you want to do a few small things right, do them yourself. If you want to do great things and make a big impact, learn to delegate.” Scaling as a leader requires prioritization, delegation, and an unwavering focus on what truly matters. Here, we’ll explore strategies for scaling leadership impact, share insights from prominent business leaders, and highlight practical steps to elevate your leadership game.
Communication Tools: Using "I- Statements" When Making Requests in Relationships
People are going to annoy you, disappoint you, and fall short. They won’t mean to, but they will. In these moments, you could stay silent and let resentment build (a lovely way to slowly deteriorate a relationship and frustrate yourself) or you could try to speak up and make a request. The issue with speaking up is that while you may have the best intentions if you communicate in a defensive non-effective manner, you will escalate a misunderstanding, hurt the people that you care about, and slowly degrade the quality of your relationships.